What about when relationships end? This can feel very painful and unsettling. These emotions provide useful information and this pain indicates that something within needs healing. Acknowledging and grieving the lost relationship remain important steps in that process. By allowing space and time to feel the sadness and mourn the emotional loss, growth and rebuilding can take place. During this period, self-care and social connection become important prescriptions for recovery. Just as recovery from a physical loss or injury requires proper nutrition, plenty of fluids, rest and relaxation, and assistance from friends and family, so, too, are the prescriptions for emotional recovery. Eating regular, well-balanced meals, getting plenty of rest, showering, going to school/work, visiting friends and family, reading, listening to music, and performing other daily acts of self-care help maintain strength and physical health for the course of restructuring your life and redefining your sense of purpose.
So, what now? Reflection and introspection can provide the means for growth and transformation. Who am I? What do I want to accomplish? What are my goals, values, and beliefs? What do I want from my relationships with others? Clarifying your own identity and investing in your own growth and development empower you to make clear and healthy choices in the future. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to take an art or dance class, but never had the time. Maybe pursuing a different educational or career path was put on hold, because of relational responsibilities or commitments. What better time to get to know yourself? You just may fall in love!